How are you today? It is the second of January and I always do things in my own tempo as I like to march to the beat of my own drum so here you will find my 15 favorite cities/places that I have visited in 2015. It was a long list of cities that I have traveled too and it was difficult to chose but I created this list for you guys. It is in a random order because let’s be honest, with that many great cities, how can I rank them according to which one I liked the best?
So I will not bore you with a lot of text today but I will just share my visuals from my trip!
2015 was amazing traveling wise, I can not wait to see what 2016 has in store for me!
I have visited Hotel Vondel during the Xmas season and I absolutely loved it! Going to Amsterdam soon? Than I have the best place for you to stay.
Hotel Vondel is a beautiful 4 star hotel in the midst of the city center.
LOCATION + HOW TO GET THERE:
Hotel Vondel is located in the best place possible. It is walking distance to the very famous Leidse Plein where you can find numerous hip and trendy hotspots and a lot of stores that will make your heart beat faster. From H&M to Lush, from Karen Millen to Shoebaloo- the area around Leidse Plein has it all.
It is also just walking distance from the main shopping street „Kalverstraat’ and if you want to discover the way the true Amsterdam fashion chick shops you can also walk quite easily to the nine streets/ negenstraatjes. http://www.theninestreets.com/
What I really liked about the location is that it is in a peaceful side street of a very busy and hectic place in Amsterdam. This way you can escape all the hectic by staying in a hotel in a beautiful and serene environment but you can be in the hip and happening crowdy places within a 5 minute walk, so basically you will really have the best of both worlds! What also will take your breath away are the beautiful 18th century townhouses the hotel is created in + the fact that the hotel is very close to the great heart of Amsterdam „Vondel Park’
How to get there:Are you an international traveler and visiting the beautiful city of Amsterdam and you are planning your stay in hotel Vondel you will probably arrive at Schiphol airport.
It is quite easy to reach the hotel from the airport and you can do it according to your own budget:
PUBLIC TRANSPORT: Take the direct train from Schiphol Airport to Amsterdam Central Station- this will take you about 20 minutes. From the central station you can take the tram (1,2 or 5) to Leidse Plein. From here it is only a 5 minute walk. From the airport to the tramstop Leidse plein will be approximately around 7 euro’s (train + tram)
You can also take a taxi to the hotel and this will also take you about 20 minutes. The fare will be a bit higher and it will be between 40 and 50 euro.
Hotel Vondel has 10 roomtypes as you can see below. I had the pleasure to stay in the Small Double Room!
Executive Twin or Double
To be totally honest, I did not understand the term ‚small double room’. The room was anything but small. It was actually quite spacious and lovely.
Upon entering what I directly noticed where the high ceilings. I was located ont he 4th (top floor) and could enjoy very high ceilings which I absolutely adored. Directly on my left side there was a closet where the safe was kept, the coffee and tea corner was placed and it offered some storage room. On the right side you also had a closet where you could find the mini bar as well. The mini bar is upon payments and the coffee and tea are complimentary.
Next to the minibar you had the flat screen TV attached to the wall, directly in front of the bed which was placed under a very big window. So when you are back in your room after a long day of exploring Amsterdam and you just want to kick back and relax and watch the telly, this is perfectly possible.
What I also loved about the bed being under a window is the possibility of waking up with the morning light in stead of just putting on some lights in your room.
The room also had an office space where you could find a desk and a chair which is perfect for business people, bloggers, journalists- everyone who just needs to do some work during their stay- the Vondel Hotel has got you covered!
Lovely details of this boutique hotel: The hotel (and the rooms) are decorated with beautiful small artsy details. My room had lovely paintings and it really gave that special touch to the room!
The bathroom was gorge! I love grey tones and this bathroom just had all the shades of grey that you need (yes, forget about 50 shades of grey, these greytones are much better:) It had a bathtub with a rain dance shower and even a sky window. So when you are taking a shower you can watch the stars (or well, search for the stars at least 🙂
The bathroom also came with a hairdryer and products from The Spa Collection to enjoy your showers even more!
PERSONAL TOUCHES: I love a hotel that pays attention to the small details. I thought it was pretty cool that the bath mat was branded with the VONDEL brand (see picture) and that there was a plaid on the hotel bed. A plaid, how awesome is that? I have stayed in over 200 hotels but I have never seen a plain on the bed. This gives it that ‘home away from home feeling’ and that is magnificent.
THE STAFF: What I always find really important to review during my reviews are the hotel staff. I can tell you, I have had some really bad experiences, where the hotel maybe is really nice but the staff definitely is not. That was not the case at Hotel Vondel. Here the staff are as kind and as beautiful as the hotel itself. The Dutch hospitality was yet again proven to be one of the best globally. Examples: The receptionist was very friendly and helpful and gave me a lot of information about the city center and which highlights were worth visiting. She did not have to look up any of the information, she was really knowledge and could tell me everything without any hesitation.
Another example was that when my internet on my phone did not work anymore because I needed a new log in, I asked the head waitress where I could find a new log in code and she told me that she would get in for me at the reception. I immediately said that I would get it my self and I thanked her for her answer and she said that she would gladly get it for me and that I should continue to enjoy my breakfast- these little things are really important. It immediately made me feel like a valued guest and that she put the needs of her guests first. And that is what you are looking for when you are on a trip, no? You want to relax, don’t want to think about anything. And when a problem occurs, even if it is a small one, that you have staff available that will fix it directly for you is just great. A big thumbs up for the lovely staff! Oh, plus everyone is all smilles, which I adore. How often do you see staff that just look cranky 24/7. Here everyone was always smiling which gave me a very pleasant feeling. When I was taking pictures in the restaurant I ran in to, I think he was one of the cleaners, and he directly showed a lot of interest in my work and asked me if he should help with taking the pictures- I thought that that was really kind of him!
Breakfast is served downstairs at the ground floor in restaurant JOOST! The breakfast is served in a really beautiful area. I love how artsy the hotel is and that even the restaurant has many beautiful details (see pictures)
The breakfast was really versatile. You had a buffet that offered many different things. From different breads and pastries to yoghurt and fresh fruit. There are also other toppings you can put in your yogh and my fave obviously are sprinkles. I love any hotel that offers sprinkles at their breakfast ! Bacon and eggs are also on the menu and they offered different kind of cheeses.
Besides the buffet they also offer a menu where you can chose your yummy meals from. I chose a waffle with some whipped cream to start my day with a smile. I put some of the delicious sprinkles on it as well.
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The hotel has a beautiful city garden where in the summer they also serve their breakfast. It is amazing to find a garden in the city center of Amsterdam and that this hotel has it just makes it that more special! The hotel also has it’s own restaurant called JOOST and the food there is super tasty. The menu has Dutch specialties that you can indulge in but also offers a versatile menu so you can take a culinary trip down to food heaven! The breakfast is also served in restaurant JOOST!
The Vondel Hotel is for many different people. I can recommend it to all the luxury lovers and expats who appreciate a good boutique hotel but also to the ordinary traveler. There is nothing ordinary about this hotel but I can guarentee you that it will make you feel extraordinary. Due to the several rooms there is a room that will fit every budget. The room is perfect for people that want to explore Amsterdam city and perhaps even the night/clubbing life because it is so close to the Leidse Plein with a lot of cool clubs and cafe’s. It is also perfect for business travelers due to the location and the comfortable rooms that cater to all your business related wishes. (you have your own office space with a desk available). Because they also offer family and tripple rooms the hotel is also perfect for a family get away or perhaps even a couples weekend where you want to explore Amsterdam with your best friends!
For more information please do visit theirwebsite http://www.hotelvondel.com and if you are ready for your Amsterdam Trip and you want to book the best hotel to take your trip to the next level do not forget to use this promocode to get yourself a great deal: PROMO10
Today is finally the day where we can launch at the newest and most fab project that is currently out there! The #DGTravelbabesproject !
At Dobe Globewe believe in being your true authentic self and by being just who you are, you can truly inspire others. We believe in empowering ourselves and others!
There is no room for jealousy, hate or any other negative thought and feelings. In the blogger world you often run in to others with the same mindset, the same passion, the same love for the thing that you love the most. In our case it is Traveling. All the ladies above are bitten by the wanderlust bug and we all wander the globe. In stead of seeing each other as competition we decided to bundle our awesomeness and create this project for YOU!
The #DGTravelbabes (Dobe Globe Travelbabes) will bring you weekly travel inspiration, travel tips, hotel reviews, product reviews and much more.
We might all have the same passion but we have our own personality, our own character and therefor we can bring you a very versatile article, every week!
We believe in creating a strong female travel community where we can share our love for traveling the globe and bond over a mutual love for the world and all of her beautiful places!
But first things first, let’s introduce our team. So far it is the magic five,but we are always looking for new talent, new incredible women who can join our team and spread the wander loving’ together with us!
All the bio’s down below are written by the #DGTravelbabes themselves so you can get a real personal introduction!
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Hi, My name is Cigdem! Probably a difficult name for you to pronounce, haha. Try saying ‘Chi damn’ – Got it? Okay! Good 🙂
I am the creator and founder of Dobe Globe. I created Dobe Globe so we could have a platform where we could be awesome together. I love to travel and I want to see as much of our beautiful globe as I can. I have am Dutch girl with international roots from all over the globe and I lived for a long time between Europe and Asian and became a true ‘Eurasian’. Last year I moved back to Europe and I settled in Antwerp where I live with my pet (stuffed animal) cat. #foreveralone.
I am a travel journalist by heart and a professional photographer and I combine those two things at my website. I am a Asia Specialist and a little piece of my heart (or well, a big chunk) will always belong to Bali.
I am a luxury travel specialist and I love to do hotelreviews and take you with me along my journey through everything lush and luxurious !
“I am one of the wanderlusters with an endless urge to roam the globe, better known as Veera Bianca. My journey in to the world of travel blogging and social media started on a horse farm in the countryside of Australia back in 2006. Since that adventure, life has never been the same. I am not the kind to stay in one place for too long, I need adventure and I live for landing to new places. Since then I’ve returned to Australia several times, studied a degree in tourism, lived in Hong Kong, worked at an airport, volunteered in India and turned my travel blog into a business. These day’s I work as a Community Lead for a fab travel app CreateTrips here in Finland, write my blog and do some freelance writing for Expedia Singapore and Matador Network. My work takes me around the world – I’m actually writing this to you from Helsinki Airport!
I am madly passionate about inspiring people to go travel and to dare to live. To do what their heart beats for.”
Hi – I’m Brooke, one half of The Nomadic Newlyweds! I’m a storyteller and a photographer… I’ve always loved finding life’s hidden treasures – whether it’s park with an incredible view of the landscape on foreign soil or the culinary stylings of an up-and-coming chef in a tiny restaurant tucked away in my own home town.
Viewing the world through a different lens helps me bring a creative and aesthetic edge to my travel content. Having kept adventure journals since childhood, it’s a joyful undertaking to now document my experiences as a young wife, traveler and entrepreneur online – as a way of inspiring others to live fully!
I’m fascinated with the depth and heritage of every culture and I’m energized by meeting people and capturing their joy, their pain and their beings on film and through written word. I believe we find ourselves, we grow and we take flight when we experience life outside our comfort zones.
I’m on a quest to live life to the fullest, tasting the flavor of life with my husband as we surround ourselves with like-minded dreamers all over the globe!
Hi y’all! The name is Carey, but you can call me CareBear. I am an American, southern belle at heart, currently living in Prague, Czech Republic teaching English. But you can really just call me a traveling addict ( with no need for an intervention)
I have been happily infected with an incurable case of Wanderlust. In September of 2013 I took a last spontaneous trip to Croatia on a whim that changed my life. There is always those things you want to do, but you’re scared and fearful, and then something just clicks in your brain and it all seems right in that very distinct moment. That’s exactly what this trip did to me. I felt I was already living the dream. I was happy living in Newport Beach, California with a great job and a great life. But I always wanted MORE, and questioned myself, could I be even MORE happier? Traveling makes me happy, really, really happy. Whenever I return from a trip I could never explain the feeling to someone who doesn’t travel. So I decided to take a trip where I didn’t have to “return” anywhere. Booked my one way ticket to Europe, and here I am almost two years later. I haven’t regretted one decision I’ve made…… well, maybe that one night in ..ahhh…nevermind…thats another story for another time. 44 countries down, countless plane/train/bus rides later…. and still plenty more to explore.
The moment I step off of a train,bus,plane, boat… into a new foreign place my heart skips a beat. That feeling is what I thrive and live for. I truly believe in inspiring others and my mission is to help others to do what you love, whatever that may be! Yep, cliche, I know..but it is the truth. I started off with social media outlets to keep my friends and family updated, little did I know that others were interested in my story and following along my journey. Fun videos, Vlogging, and Pictures are my preferred creative outlet to share my stories so you can truly feel connected and see these experiences through my eyes and share the real emotions of what traveling does to your soul.
Hello world! I am originally from Washington, DC, USA, and I am proud to say that I am a travel addict. I caught the travel bug in 2006 on my very first overseas trip to Italy. It was somewhere I had always dreamt about and it turned out to be better than I ever imagined! I became so fascinated with the lifestyle, the architecture, the history, and the people. It opened my eyes up to the world and I left wanting more. As soon as I returned home, I immediately started planning my trip back! I realised that there is so much more world and culture to experience than the small bubble I had been living in my whole life. A fire was ignited inside me and I became so passionate about seeing everything else this beautiful world has to offer. Since then, my life has been completely centered around traveling and I have been to 44 countries! !
I started a blog recently just to document and share my experiences. Even if no one ever reads it, it doesn’t matter because it will be like a diary that I can look back on one day to remember all these fascinating places I have been and the stories that came from them. I never anticipated it, but it has become like a creative outlet for me, a release that makes me really happy. It’s like my baby and I cannot wait to put more time into it and share so many more of my crazy adventures with everyone! If I can inspire just one person to finally get over their fears and start to travel, then I’ll die a happy girl. !
The name CrazyTravelista developed from several years of my friends and family calling me crazy every time I told them about yet another trip I had planned. Before I would go on that trip, I would plan the next trip so I would have something to look forward to when I got back. I sold my car, most of my expensive belongings, and have lived a more simple life the last few years. All so I could travel more. Crazy, huh? Maybe a little, but it’s my number one passion in life and I have never had anything make me feel more alive than when I’m traveling. !
I must say that I am extremely touched by how supportive and encouraging the female travel community has been throughout all this. It seems everyone is trying to help one another and it’s really empowering and inspiring to see females working together in such an unselfish way. I am very blessed to be apart of it. Hopefully we can inspire more girls to get out there and see the world for themselves! !
You can follow along on my adventures on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and Snapchat at @crazytravelista and on my blog at www.crazytravelista.com. Happy traveling! !
So that is our lovely team. We will bring you the best travel articles, reviews, tips and tricks next year so buckle up, we are coming for you! But for now, a merry xmas my loves and keep on traveling!
‘”You see if you don’t take money, they can’t tell you what to do, kid.’ –
I hope all is well. I woke up exactly 2 hours ago (yes, even during the weekends I wake up around 7 o’clock). I looked outside my window, it was raining. The perfect fall weather to stay inside and enjoy a good movie or binge watch on your fave series. But I just could not decide on what I wanted to watch. I was stroling through my collection of movies, series and documentaries and than I saw the documentary of the very legendary Bill Cunningham- And eventhough I am a huge fan of his work, for some reason I never actually watched his documentary- biopic.
I saw that it was 2 hours and I thought, sure why not- It is still early and I got all the time. And God, am I happy I did watch it. I feel so inspired.
Many of us have traveled or will travel to New York. The Big Apple. The city of lights, the city that never sleeps, the city of the most incredible streetfashion, best rooftop bars, clubs – EVERYTHING!
We go to NYC and take a million selfies. Statue of Liberty? CHECK! Magnolia Bakery? CHECK! Empire State Building? CHECK
But before us, there was Bill. To me, Bill is really the heart of NYC- and I am pretty sure that 90% of people reading my post don’t know who Bill is.
Besides his entire life being one big ball of inspiration he also had good one liners in this bio pic. A few really spoke to me and one of them is this one:
And isn’t that true tho? If you have a job that does not feel like working but it is just having fun than you really have it made. Bill is currently 83. 80 FF’in 3 and he still rides his bike all over NYC, going to several events a day to capture the best streetstyle pictures that are out there. He is currently driving is 29th bike, cause the 28 before that were stolen. But that does not matter. He does not give up. That is such an inspiration. Being at that age and still going anywhere and everywhere, just so we can have gorgeous images to stare at.
He only captures things that are fashion to him. He does not give a crap about celebrities and in his words ‘them and their free dresses’- He is probably one of the few man out there who don’t know who Kim Kardashian is. Haha. He cares about ‘real people’ and that makes him pretty cool.
Also- he is probably the only guy Ms. Anna Wintour would stop for to take a pic. There is this really funny scene in the documentary where hundreds of photographers are calling Anna as she is walking by but she does not even give them the time a day. But when she spots Bill and hears his voice something magical happens. She stops and poses. And not in a rushed way. Cool, calm and collected- and allows him to get the perfect shot. When he waves that he has the shot she rushes back and continues walking- Everything for Bill he!
Bill has been photographing Anna from a very young age on. Back when she was a 19 year old socialite he was already capturing her beauty and style- Small note; she had the same hairdue back than too.
Bill has been photographing people in NYC for so long now, he really has seen it all. Capturing different trends and seeing the people change. The fashion change. If you are a true fashionista you really should get to know Bill. He is a fascinating man and I guarentee you that you will be inspired by him!
Back in studio 54 when he was kicking it with Andy Warhol, he designed hats for Marilyn Monroe and he is been capturing New Yorkers for about 50 years. One word: LEGEND!
I could go on and on about this amazing man, but why should I talk when the pictures and the doc can do the work and show you more than I could ever tell you. This is a MUST WATCH ! (video at the end of the post)
How are you doing? I have been doing great! I was discussing my new years eve plans with my friend when he asked; “So, when we get to the first of January ’16, what will your goals and plans be”.
And this made me think. Not about my new years resolutions but about my goals and plans in general.
Why should we wait until the first day of the new year to give our selves a fresh start, a clean slate. Why do we need that 1-1-16 so much that we allow ourselves to continue with our current habits instead of saying: “TOMORROW STARTS TODAY”
I thought about what tomorrow starts today would mean to me and I came up with these 15 things that I would like to accomplish before December the 11th 2016. You don’t have to have the ‘biggest’ goals, you can think of small things too, just things you would like to do and accomplish for your self. If you want to lose weight or perhaps stop smoking, why don’t you start with that NOW. Or at least, start with making a plan on how to do that….NOW!
For now, my 15 thingies:
CREATE MY ULTIMATE TRAVEL BUCKET LIST
– I have traveled a lot but there is still so much of the world I have not seen yet. I would like to create my ultimate travel bucket list with places I have not seen yet so I have a better vision of what kind of trips to plan for the up and coming year!
ACTUALLY TAKE ONE OF THE TRIPS FROM MY ULTIMATE TRAVEL BUCKET LIST
-I am not a fulltime travelblogger anymore. I actually have a fulltime job too. So combined with my blog I actually have 2 fulltime jobs, and I love both. Therefor, it is not realistic to take 500 trips haha. But I would like to take (at least one) of my travel bucket list, and make it happen!
CREATE AN REALISTIC EXERCISE SCHEDULE
Excercising is always a great idea. Even if you are in shape it will not hurt to take good care of your body. I have always loved to excersise only in all fairness, during my period of depression I did not really go to the gym anymore. Click here for the article And I did gain weight so my goal is to lose this weight in a normal and healthy way. Not by starving myself but by creating a exercise schedule. A realistic one. Sometimes people tend to want things too fast. I understand that you want to lose weight, but going to the gym (when you are a starter) 7 times a week is not the best idea.
GET MORE KNOWLEDGE ON EATING HEALTHIER
I would love to learn more about food. They say that you are what you eat. Well, that I am a box of oreo cookies. Haha…. I think that that is enough said.
TRAVEL TO ICELAND
Oh northern lights, where are you? Okay, realistically, there is not a really big chance that I will actually get to see the northern lights during my trip to iceland but hey, a girl can dream right. It is not really something I can control. However, northernlights or not, I really want to see and discover Iceland!
READ ONE BOOK A MONTH
I used to read so much. Now I am always on my phone. And yes, YOU ARE TOO! I love to read tho, and I want to start reading more again. Perhaps before going to bed. It is much healthier to stare at my book pages than at my phone before sleeping.
VISIT AT LEAST 25 NEW DESIGN/BOUTIQUE HOTELS FOR MY WEBSITE
Since I won’t be traveling fulltime due to my job, I will still travel on a monthly bases. 25 hotels a year is an average of 2,1 (haha)- a month. That is very manageable.
MAKE MY (what now still is my secret project) VERY SUCCESSFUL
Okay, more about this project on Sunday.
LEARN HOW TO DO A HANDSTAND
Yes, weird goal right. I always just wanted to be able to do this but I was always to afraid to try because I was afraid that I would fall and break my neck. I know, that is so random right. But this will be the year where I can finally make a handstand (or come close-ish to it:)
VISIT 10 CITIES I HAVE NEVER BEEN TO BEFORE
10 cities is quite a lot..but I really want to do this. The world is beautiful and I want to see it all.
REACH 15K FOLLOWERS ON INSTAGRAM
For some this might be a weird goal, but you have to remember, as a blogger your social media accounts are very important. Some bloggers have over 100K followers or some even 1M. Impressive, yes. Fair? Not always. Of course some people really got these followers in an honest way. They create content that others like to follow but others also buy their followers. It is actually quite obvious because when you click on some accounts you see that they are actually spam accounts. I do not know why people do that. I might grow ‘slower’ than others, but my followers are real and I like to interact with them. Therefor, reaching 15K will be a big accomplishment for me!
GET 5 ARTICLES POST IN PRINT (MAGAZINES/NEWSPAPERS)
I used to write for several magazines when I was living in Asia but I have noticed that I have been freelancing so little lately and I think it is actually quite sad. I consider myself to be a good writer and it truly is my passion. I would like to start to publish my work in print again, of course when I get the chance to do so!
SPEND MORE TIME WITH MY FAMILY AND CLOSE FRIENDS
This year has been a crazy hectic year. I have moved to Antwerp and I live my single girl life here (what also has been quite the adjustment)- I am not able to see my family and friends a lot because they live all over the world. Literally. But I would like to invest my (very rare) free time on spending more time with them and really make more of an effort.
EVALUATE EVERY MONTH ON HOW I AM DOING
I think it is important to keep track of your goals and dreams. I would like to take the time monthly to look back on the previous month and to see how I am doing
VISIT ISTANBUL TOGETHER WITH MY MOM
For some reason we keep postponing this trip. But this year I would like to make it happen and I would like to visit this beautiful city, with my beautiful mom.
What are your goals, dreams and things to do/accomplish?
Well, what do you know, it is already December. Oh wait, and even the second week is about to start in 24 hours. Where did the time go? Everything happend so fast this year..I can not believe that we already will start a new year in just a matter of a few days.
But before this year is over I want you to reflect on it and see if you have done everything that you wanted to do this year. Have you checked everything of your ‘2015 to do list’?
If not, it is time to get up of your ass and start making things happen. Of course we need to stay realistic, not everything will be manageable to doing in the last 3 weeks of this year but there must be something you can do! Especially for someone else. Therefor I created Deedzember!
December is for most of us a very happy and joyful month full of celebrations, but it is not like that for everyone. I just want you to look around you and see where YOU can help.
You don’t have to be a millionaire to make a difference! You can help with your heart too.
Here is a list of things you can do if you are totally blank on this one:
– Help out in a soup kitchen
– Join a program that is feeding the homeless
– Make homecooked meals and drive around your city- and give them to the homeless. There are more homeless people than you might think
-Donate clothing to a refugee camp
-Collect (old) new toys for the kids in a refugee camp
-Organize a mini fundraiser for your favorite charity
-Visit an elderly home and spend time with those that might have no one left anymore
But you can also keep it a bit closer to home:
-Write your parents a ‘Thank you’ letter and tell them everything you are thankful for
-Make a meal for that one struggling friend, bring it over and just have an all nighter where you talk the night away.
-Sweep the fallen leaves of the porch of your (elderly) neighbor
– Ask if there are tasks that you can help with too; mowing the lawn, washing the windows
There are so many small things you can do that can mean the world for someone else. Acknowledge each others presence and be kind to each other.
What good deed can you do for someone else? Let me know!
Today I will share yet another post about my personal depression story. I have written an article about ‘The story behind my smile’ almost a month ago and I got a lot of sweet and supportive reactions. (Click here for that post)
The reason why I wrote that post is in order to inspire others and to let you know that it will be okay. I have ‘survived’ depression and even though I still feel down at times, I am not in that big black hole I once was in.
The thing with depression is that more people have had depressions than you might think. Dealing with depression is difficult. Hiding it is not.
I remember when I had my ‘big coming out party’ where I told my family and closest friends about my depression and that it was time for me to seek help. (almost) nobody saw it coming. I became a master in hiding it.
It was so weird. I did wanted help. I just did not want to ask for it. Asking for help was (and sometimes is) so difficult cause I am a very proud person. I do not like to show my weaknesses so I kinda strung my self along un till I hit rock bottom. And than I decided that the life I was leading was not the life I wanted to lead and that therapy was something I could really benefit from.
During my time of depression, sometimes I was dissapointed in my family and friends. ‘Why did they not offer me help, I mean, isn’t it obvious that I am not doing well?’ – I kinda played the victim role cause that was easier than to admit that if I wanted help, I should just ask for it.
However, I still want to share some signs that I thought were clear for others to see but appearently were not. I really want you to read them carefully and look in your innercircle, look at your friends, colleagues and try to see people. Acknowledge them, see their real colors. And if you recognize some of these signs just ask them this 1 question:
“So, how are you really doing” … I guarentee you you will get some answers you never thought were possible…and who knows, you can be the gamechanger in this persons life….
1. WEIGHT GAINING OR WEIGHT LOSS
When a person is happy you won’t see a dramatic difference in their weight. Unless of course someone is intentionally trying to lose weight and is on a strict diet. With me, it was the other way around. During my depression I gained almost 17 kilo. This was something I was really embarrassed about at first but trust me, when you feel fucked up on the inside, the outside does not really matter. I know that people noticed that I gained wait, obviously, 17 kilo is really a lot but nobody really asked me about it. Yes, it is an awkward subject, “hey you used to look different in a bikini, what happend’ is not a question anyone would like to get, but sometimes it is needed. By asking about it (and of course it is not nice to hear) you really can be someones wake up call. To be honest, at some point I did not even realize how much weight I have gained. I knew that I did not fit my clothes anymore. But than I just went to the store and bought some new stuff. By addressing this subject you will create a window to have an even deeper conversation
OMG, did I really just say smizing? Oh yea, I did. I think it is so annoying, the way Ms. Banks uses this term. For those who never watched America’s Next Top Model; smizing is smiling with your eyes.
When you are depressed it is easy to fool people with ‘smiling’ with your lips or even laughing a bit out loud. But eyes are really the window to your soul. When someone is laughing, try to see if their eyes are laughing too. Is someone genuinly happy or is that person faking it. I have fake laughed so many times during my depression my jaw started to hurt. But still everyone thought I was this perfect girl in her perfect girl living the perfect life, while on the inside I was broken.
3. SOCIAL WITHDRAWAL-OR EXTENSIVELY GOING OUT
The best place of a depressed person is back at home in their own bed. During my depression I spend most of my time in bed. Of course I still went to work, kept up appearance – but the second work was over I went directly home. For me this was a weird thing because I have always been a very outgoing girl. I also always loved cocooning at home, but I also went out a lot. At some point I just stopped. The thought of being in a busy and hectic crowd drove me crazy and I even felt so depressed by just the thought of it. I spend so much time at home and I isolated myself from others. I always gave some lame excuse until I reached the point where I would even ignore my own boyfriend.- So really try to look in the change of behavior of people. Is that one really outgoing friend suddenly not going out anymore or perhaps the other way around- maybe someone who never went out is extensively going out, getting drunk- doing who knows what.
I am not saying that if someone does these 3 things (or one of them) that that person is depressed. Of course there can be other factors too. People change, people act differently or want different things in life. I am just sharing the things where I kinda gave away that I was depressed but nobody noticed. So I do want you to look around and perhaps if you suspect that there is something going on in someones life, there probably is. Don’t be shy and just ask about it. Even if you think it is none of your business. Show that person that they are not alone- cause I can guarantee you, that person is dealing with a depression, he or she is feeling alone. And that is the worst feeling out there.
Be kind to others. Be kind to your self.
Perhaps we know eachother, perhaps we don’t. Either way, you can always send me a message and I will try my best to help you, or at least just to be there for you…
Have you ever dealt with depression or know someone who dealt with depression? How did you recognize it?
IN DUTCH VIBES WE WILL PLACE ARTICLES TWICE A WEEK IN THE DUTCH LANGUAGE.
Ik woon nu ongeveer een jaartje in Antwerpen. En nog steeds sta ik met de volle 100% achter mijn keuze om naar deze wereldstad te verhuizen. Ik kom oorspronkelijk uit Delft en heb overal en nergens tussen Delft en Bali gewoond. Met Aziatische landen ben ik goed bekend, ask me anything, I will tell you everything! Maar met het mooie stadje van mijn ‘zuiderburen’ wist ik eigenlijk maar weinig af.
Ik heb het afgelopen jaar dingen gehoord die ik niet direct kon plaatsen and to be honest, soms viel ik bijna van mijn stoel. Van sommige moest ik ook heel hard lachen en vandaag ga ik deze met jullie delen.
Na een jaar heb ik sommige zelfs in mijn vocabulaire opgenomen, maar 1 zal er echt nooit in komen. Die is gewoon echt TE FREAKING AWKWARD (voor een Dutchie)
Toen een Vlaamse vriendin aan mij vroeg of ik in het weekend vroeg of ik nog had gepoept was ik even speechless. En dat ben ik niet snel. Excuse you? Nou ben ik totaal niet preuts maar waarom moest zij weten wat ik op de wc deed. Aarzelend zei ik maar ja en ik keek een beetje twijfelachtig om me heen. Ik kreeg een highfive en ze riep: ‘You go girl’ en ze liep weg. Ik woonde toen nog maar net in Antwerpen. Ik had al gehoord dat het Vlaamse volk een gezellig volk was om maar even volledig te generaliseren, maar dit had ik ook niet verwacht. Wat een support voor een goede stoelgang. Ik vertelde dit aan een collega en zij legde mij the true definition van het woord ‘poepen’ uit. POEPEN=SEXEN
SERIOUSLY-DAFUQ THO. Na een jaar in Antwerpen te wonen snap ik deze alsnog niet. Het blijft (voor mij) toch nog een beetje raar!
Nou, die begijp je nu dan ook wel toch. Een poepvriend is je FUCKBUDDY! Come on peeps, zeg gewoon fuckbuddy, of sexvriendje. Een poepvriend, dan moet je toch aan heel iets anders denken? #ieeuw #hahaahaha
3. JE POEP
Oke oke, last one uit het rijtje ‘poepen’ maar ook deze moet ik benoemen. Ik kreeg een compliment dat ik een mooie poep had. Om een lang verhaal kort te maken, je poep is je bil. je kont. je ass. whatever you feel comfortable with. Dus als jij naar Antwerpen komt en je staat je ‘poep’ op de dansvloer te shaken en er komt een hottie naar je toen en complimenteert je met je poep, hoef je hem niet raar aan te kijken want je begrijpt nu wat hij bedoeld.
4. EEN KLEEDJE
“Wat heb jij een mooi kleedje aan’- Huh, wait, what? Ik had toch gewoon een jurkje aan? Een kleedje is iets wat bij ons Dutchies op de grond ligt. Of iets waar Aladdin op vliegt door de woestijn met Jasmine, niet iets wat je aan hebt toch? Hier in Antwerpen / Belgie refereren ze naar een kleedje als ze het hebben over een jurkje!
5. EEN TAS KOFFIE
‘Hey wil jij ook een tas koffie?’ Sure, riep ik. Puur uit nieuwschierigheid en omdat ik niet wist wat ik kon verwachten en er toch wel benieuwd naar was. Ik kreeg gewoon een kop koffie. Een tas is dus een (koffie)kop/mok.
6. TAS=MOK / ZAK=TAS
Waar ik in het vorige puntje nog uitlegde wat een tas hier in Belgie is ga ik je nu vertellen dat als ze je in de supermarkt een zak aanbieden je altijd ja moet zeggen. Dit is namelijk gewoon een ‘tasje’.
Nu ik dit stuk schrijf ontdek ik dat ik veel van deze termen heb geleerd omdat ik ergens een compliment over kreeg. Ook kreeg ik een keer een compliment over mijn mooie botten. Nu ben ik flink wat kilo’tjes aangekomen de laatste tijd en geloof mij, mijn botten zijn ver te zoeken haha dus ik snapte deze echt niet. Eigenlijk snap ik het nog steeds niet. Wel weet ik wat er mee bedoeld wordt. Botten zijn je laarzen. En nee, het is geen general woord voor schoenen. Het zijn echt die dingen die wij in Nederland laarzen noemen.
8. ER WAS GEEN KAT OP DE BAAN
Toen ik met mijn vriendin naar Brugge reed reden we door een heel mooi stukje waar het super stil was. Er was geen verkeer, geen voetganger, het was er ontzettend rustig. Op een gegeven moment zei ze: Er is geen kat op de baan. Dom als ik was en misschien ook een tikkeltje naief keek ik rond en verbaasde me even want ik zag wel een kat lopen, well, rennen, richting de bosjes. Ik dacht, ach die heeft ze waarschijnlijk niet gezien. Tot ik begreep (ergens ook logisch) dat als er geen kat op de baan is er mee bedoeld wordt dat er letterlijk niemand is. Of zoals wij in Nederland zouden zeggen: ‘Er is geen hond op straat’.
Dit zijn maar een paar voorbeelden van de ‘Typische Vlaamse’ uitspraken/woorden die ik heb geleerd het afgelopen jaar. Kende jij ze al?
IN DUTCH VIBES WE WILL PLACE ARTICLES TWICE A WEEK IN THE DUTCH LANGUAGE.
Vandaag moet ik het met jullie hebben over een steeds meer voorkomend phenomeen; ‘Het irritante meisje in de trein’. Ik moet je eerlijk bekennen, vroeger was ik zo een irritant meisje in de trein maar nu ik wat ouder ben (ik heb onlangs 29 kaarsjes uitgeblazen) merk ik dat ik mij ook begin te irriteren aan meisjes die mij doen herinneren aan mijn vroegere ik.
Ik zal jullie meenemen naar vorige week vrijdag toen ik de trein van Antwerpen naar mijn hometown Delft pakte.
Op vrijdag middag naar Nederland vertrekken vanuit Antwerpen is een echte hassle. Het is er zo ontiegelijk druk en je moet echt vechten voor een zitplaatsje. Nu zorg ik dat ik een grote backpack op m’n rug heb waarmee ik subtiel andere mensen kan wegduwen. Als ze mij dan boos aankijken zeg ik direct dat het mij spijt en probeer er zo lief mogelijk bij te lachen. Tot nu toe heeft dit altijd wel goed gewerkt, vooral bij mannen. Eenmaal in de trein moet je echt rennen voor je plekje. Vaak lukt het mij om een zit plaatsje te bemachtigen. Ik pak altijd mijn laptop erbij en ga aan mijn website werken of een serie’tje kijken. Het duurt 1 uur en 11 minuten tot ik in Rotterdam ben en mijn overstap moet maken dus dit is de perfecte tijd om eens lekker, rustig m’n ding te doen.
Helaas wordt dit altijd verpest door de irritante treinmeisjes. Elke week weer de zelfde discussie, ik zal denken, wordt je er dan niet moe van? Welke discussie vraag je je misschien af? Well..here it comes.
Op vrijdag avond gaan niet alleen vaak de Nederlandse working peeps naar huis maar ook vele studenten die in Antwerpen studeren maar toch nog in Nederland wonen. Of op kamers zitten in Antwerpen en in het weekend weer naar ‘huis’ gaan. En deze studenten (vaak toch de meisjes) kunnen ontzettend irritant zijn. En het meest irritante is nog wel, dat alles wat zij nu doen ik toen der tijd ook heb gedaan maar nu pas inzie hoe irritant ik en mijn gedrag eigenlijk was. Haha.
De conducteur, meestal al zeer ondergewaardeerd, komt de coupé binnen. Controle. De mensen waarmee de conducteurs dagelijks moeten dealen, pff, alleen al door die gedachten krijg ik medelijden met ze. ‘Meneer ik heb geen kaartje”- “Mevrouw, ik heb toch echt ingechecked”- elke keer weer die kansloze eindeloze discussies, daar wordt je toch moe van.
Ik laat mijn kaartje zien. Alles is in orde. De conducteur wenst mij een prettige reis en gaat naar de meisjes voor mij. Ik zie al direct dat het ‘irritante treinmeisjes’ zijn, maar de conducteur, vol goede hoop vraagt toch vriendelijk het vervoerbewijs van deze meisjes.
Wat mij nog het meeste verbaast is, dat als je weet dat je niet bent ingecheckt, waarom je dan toch je OV overhandigt? Je weet dat je dan te horen krijgt dat je niet bent ingecheckt-dus waarom doe je het dan nog?
En ja hoor. Meisje geeft OV-Conducteur scant OV-Geeft aan dat er niet ingecheckt is en de discussie begint:
Irritant treinmeisje:“Maar (geen meneer of iets, manieren zijn ook ver te zoeken)- waarom moet ik inchecken dan, ik ben student, ik reis toch gratis?” Conducteur: “Iedereen moet inchecken, dat zijn onze regels. Je moet in en uit checken, net zoals iedereen” Irritant treinmeisje: “Ja maar hoezo dan? Het is toch gratis? En op Antwerpen kan ik niet inchecken moet ik dan in Roosendaal er uit? Ja daag, dan red ik mijn trein niet meer, je hebt zo weinig tijd om dat te doen man’. Conducteur: Je moet inderdaad, zodra je in Nederland bent bij het eerste treinstation de trein uit om in te checken, ik begrijp dat dit vervelend is maar dit zijn wel de regels. Als je de trein niet red dan dien je een volgende trein te nemen maar je dient wel ingechecked te zijn. Irritant treinmeisje:“Ja maar dat slaat toch helemaal nergens op, dan moet ik een half uur wachten op de volgende trein als ik het niet red, ja daag dat ga ik echt niet doen?”
Ik vraag me af waarom ze zo brutaal is tegenover iemand die haar makkelijk een boete kan geven maar het lijkt haar totaal niet te interesseren en ze blijft maar doorgaan over hoe belachelijk ze het vind.
Conducteur: Nogmaals, ik snap dat het vervelend is maar dat zijn de regels. Voor deze ene keer (ik vraag me af hoevaak hij dit al heeft gezegd) zal ik je geen boete geven maar let er voor de volgende keer op dat je je wel incheckt, okay? Irritant treinmeisje: Oke, volgende keer zal ik inchecken – zegt ze braaf tot dat de conducteur wegloopt en ze met haar vriendinnen grapt, tuurlijk ga ik dat niet doen, ja daag, hij is niet goed in z’n hoofd.
Ontzettend respectloos om je zo te gedragen tegenover iemand die je net een boete heeft bespaard.
Soms gaat het er niet om of de regels logisch zijn of niet, je dient je er gewoon aan te houden. En als je het er echt niet mee eens bent, schrijf de NS een brief, maak er werk van, maar ga niet in overtreding van de regels om vervolgens elke keer weer een eindeloze discussie te starten met iemand die ook alleen maar z’n werk doet. It is really annoying.
Geloof mij, ik zal het ook vervelend vinden dat ik in Roosendaal de trein uit zal moeten om in te checken maar dit is geen verassing voor je, je weet dit van te voren. Dus doe iedereen een plezier en check voortaan gewoon in.
Even heb ik nog getwijfeld om haar hier op aan te spreken, maar alleen al door die gedachte voelde ik me echt een oude tak. Haha. Dus ik heb besloten om er niks van te zeggen, want uiteindelijk gaat het mij ook helemaal niks aan. En ach, met mij is het ook goed gekomen dus ooit zal dit irritante treinmeisje ook net als ik gewoon een normale reiziger zijn.