How are you doing today? I was busy writing my reviews from my Bali trip (have you seen the latest one *Click ) and while looking at my pictures I realized that due to my work and passion for traveling, I do travel a lot. No, this is not a big revelation to me but I did realize that even though it comes with a lot of blessings and beautiful memories, it also has its ‘downside’.
Yes, traveling and wanderlusting throughout this globe is Fan-freaking-tastic, but sometimes it can get hard too. For me, I travel a lot and I live abroad and thought it was the perfect time to write a post about this. Sharing 8 things (positive and negative) that will happen when you are the one in your friend group that always travels, or lives abroad! Perhaps you can recognize some points, thoughts and feelings, so let’s go!
1. YOU WILL MISS YOUR FAMILY
Being away from your family will make you miss them. (Or not, haha). I have a really close connection with my mom, dad and sister and not living in the same country as them can be difficult at times. It is not that I expect to see them every day but it sucks not being able to just go over for coffee when I feel like it.
2. YOU WILL MISS YOUR FRIENDSMissing your friends is also a big downside of living abroad. It can be hard to see that your friends continue their weekly get-togethers (obviously, cause life does not stop when you move away haha) and you are not a part of it. At least, not physically. Movie dates with your besties, clubbing till the break of dawn or just lying in bed with a chocolate candy bar watching movies is something you can’t do that easily anymore.
3. YOU WILL HAVE A LOT OF DIFFERENT FRIEND GROUPSBesides your home town friend group you will have a lot of international friends too! Traveling and living abroad has also a very big plus side! Because you are always on the run and/or you have lived in several places you will probably have a lot of friend groups that you are part off. People that you met while traveling are probably living all over this globe so for your next city trip the chances are quite big that you have a friend to crash with. Also, what I have learned is that while traveling or living abroad you become faster, closer to and with people. You all share that one big thing; “You are away from your own loved ones so you create your own ‘Family” and this can be pretty damn awesome too!
4. YOU WILL MISS IMPORTANT MILESTONES
One thing that deeply sucks is missing milestones in your friends and family members’ life. Everyone continues their own life. A life with graduations, birthdays, anniversary’s and weddings and it is so hard to be there for every occasion. For me, being in my mid-twenties I have friends that are starting a family and it sucks that when you see your girlfriend becoming a mommy, that you can’t be there when her first baby is born. Yes you will see the baby, 6 months later when you will go back to your homecountry, but during the most important time you can’t be there to support her and it will suck terribly.
5. YOU WILL HAVE ARGUMENTS WITH PEOPLE THAT JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND
Living the nomad/travelers lifestyle is not something everyone can relate too. The endless discussions I have had with my friends who mean well but just don’t understand. “Why are you always traveling, why aren’t you settling down”. And the one that really is icing on the cake: “Why don’t you have a normal lifestyle”. But let’s be honest, who defines the word “normal”. If normal is being married by the age of 25, having 3 kids, a hubby and a cat, going to your office job everyday, spending your weekends being a soccer mom, I am sorry but than I really like to be weird. I do not mean this in an offensive way. I respect everyone and their lifestyle but you will have people judging you for not choosing this lifestyle too. It is hard to explain why you have this burning fire in your heart to discover planet earth, to see all the beauty that this world has to offer so at some point I would advice you to just smile and nod. It has absolutely no point to argue with people that don’t understand a wandering heart.
6. YOU WILL BECOME VERY CREATIVE IN WAYS OF HOW YOU KEEP IN TOUCHYes, it is true. You will become even more creative than you already are with keeping in touch. You are so used to being ‘gone all the time’ and you don’t want to neglect your friends or family so you think of ways of keeping in touch cause let’s be honest, just texting ain’t enough. When I was living in my hometown I would always just text my friends short stuff like hey, let’s hang out but I would never send them a card, or a long email, or a video message. Why should I? I would see them on a daily/weekly bases. We live in a time where we have so many possibilities of keeping in touch. Through social media (FB, Instagram, Twitter) or just a simple email. A video message or a whatsapp voice message. Yes, everything is possible so why not take advantage of that? I have had the most fun whatsapp voice messages lately with my girlfriends and trust me, you should do this too!
7. YOU WILL MAKE EVERY MOMENT COUNT
Once you do go back to your hometown and see your fave friends, you will make every minute count. And I mean EVERY minute.
– You arrived at 11 PM at the airport and you reach your home around 1 AM but your friends want to go out because you will only be ‘in town’ for 2 days- Trust me, you will go! And the morning after another friend wants you to come over to admire her 2 week old babygirl, SURE! You will go. You will make it happen. How tired you might be, you will feel so energized by the thought that you will see the one friend you have not seen in such a long time, that all your tiredness will disappear. You will make use of every minute that you are ‘home’. It might require some strategic planning and adding some friends to getter in a new ‘group’ but you will make damn sure you saw everyone you wanted to see, went to your fave cafe and you will hit the road again with a 1001 new amazing memories.
8. YOU WILL APPRECIATE YOUR LOVED ONES MORE
This sounds so corny and cliche but really, you don’t know what you got until it’s gone. Or well, gone’ish. Haha. When you are used to talking to your friends and seeing them on a daily bases, or are still depending on your mom to bring you soup when you are sick and coming over to take care of you (Yes, I am a 28 year old woman and I still expect this from my mom #noshamenogame haha)
and all of a sudden, this is not possible because you live abroad or are traveling, you will appreciate those moments more. When you are back living in your hometown, those things are so normal. So normal that you don’t even realize that it is actually quite special. Being in my ‘home away from home” has taught me a valuable lesson of who matters to me most, besides my family, who my real friends are and who I choose to have in my life. And if you are lucky, like I am, those people will choose you too. They will understand and love you and your wandering heart and they will always be your ‘home’.